This blog will help you uncover what your current values are! For sure!
In the last blog you contemplated the things that are really important to you: your values. A few links were suggested that might help you really think about them.
Did you try Douglas Wagoner’s Value Test? How long did that take?
Did you ask yourself The One Question? What sort of results did you come up with? When the word “simplicity” came up for me, I started to wonder whether I was really uncovering a desire rather than a value
But before you take the next step, you MUST remember one underlying rule :
There is no right, wrong, good or bad - there just is.
So what do you need to do to uncover your current values?
Take a look at your results.
It’s as simple as that.
If you can take a step back, release judgement, and have a look at your results, you WILL uncover your current values. I can give you example after example that will show that to be true.
As Paul Counsel repeatedly reminded me during the last 12 months of mentoring: “You are most highly organised around what you value the most“. Admittedly that sentence remained somewhat confusing to me until I had the recent big AHA moment….which is the journey I’m taking you on.
So what do you actually do to look at your results?
Do what I did:-
- Take a clean sheet of paper and rule a vertical line down the middle.
- Write down your life results on the left hand side.
Okay – do you need hints? Well, maybe take at look at the 5 areas in your life always mentioned on this blog:
What are your health results?EG: Fit; overweight;active gym membership;
What are your career results? EG: Same employer for 20 years; profitable/non profitable business; career trajectory;
What are you relationship results? Single; married; children; extended family;
What are your time results? Where do you spend most of your time? On what do you spend most of your time?
What are you financial results? What do you spend your money on? Do you have mortgages? Credit cards? Savings?
Yes, I did compare my “results” to people I know,to help me figure it all out. Jane might have 4 children - you may have only one. Max might go on overseas holidays every year – you may have been overseas once. You may live in a large house and commit to serious renovations, whereas Wilma lives in a town house. It could be tempting to say that you value “holidays” but the above results wouldn’t really show that. Get the drift??
Hold the judgement!!!!
There is no right, wrong, good or bad….just results.
Go on…give it a try!
In the next blog – I’ll show you a way to consider your results and identify the values ( conscious or unconscious) that have driven you to those results.
If you want to experience Paul Counsel talk about values, you may want to join in a casual Sunday afternoon event. Watch a contemporary cinema movie while Paul illustrates
how values are impacting on the actions and results of various characters . (I really enjoyed watching Revolultionary Road with Paul in this way ).
I can personally recommend it.
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